Fun? But We're Married!: A Wise and Witty Guide to a Lasting Marriage

Co-authored by long-married (54 years) Columbia University professors of psychology, Fun? But We're Married is about what it takes to sustain a healthy and happy marriage. Emphasizing the value of having fun together, Lois and Joel Davitz also suggest that more communication is not always better; you can be just too sensitive; your marriage can survive a few good fights--if you know the rules; getting out of sync is not necessarily fatal. Drawing on their own experience of life together and many years of professional research into why marriages last or disintegrate, the Davitzes provide a wise and witty guide--for those about to marry--married couples experiencing stumbling blocks--and couples who'll enjoy looking back with the perspective of years and a touch of laughter. From the Introduction . . . We believe that marriage should be a long, happy honeymoon that grows stronger with the passage of time. And it can be. It won't, of course, be all that easy. There will be ups and downs. We know as well as anyone that a lasting marriage is no snap. It takes more than inertia, a handbook of bedroom techniques, a cold blast of economic pressure or the threat of family or religious sanctions. You have to believe that a lasting and happy marriage is possible for you and most importantly you have to believe that it is worth the effort.